He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city (Proverbs 16:32). This is a fraction of what I refer to as the Principle of Delayed Reaction where we do not have to take actions and come back to think about the consequences of the action when it is already beyond the limits of our control.
It seems easier for a lot of people to let the emotions go out of control and they forget that when we run out of control there will be an effect on someone else around us and things will also go out of control. That’s why you find someone doing something and the consequences are severe but the person comes back to say, ‘I didn’t know it was going to get out of hand!’ How can you let your actions get out of hand and not expect things to get out of hand? Things like these have gone on for years and the people who didn’t have to die are already dead, companies that didn’t have to collapse could not survive and many more things re going wrong just because we cannot delay our reaction to some of the things we experience or what other people are doing to us.
If we engage the principle of delayed reaction which is primarily about
‘having a rethink or putting a natural response
to any action under check by subjecting it
to a thought process to see its
expected and unexpected consequences
before taking an action.’
© Fola Daniel Adelesi
There would be fewer issues in our lives with other people if we don’t have to respond immediately to everything they say or do. We just might be giving ourselves more peace of mind if we learn not to react to how people look at us all the time. When people look at me anyhow I sometimes just presume the person has problems with his or her eyes and I should not take that personal so that it becomes my problem!
Do you ever find people around you who have issues with their spouses and the next thing you find is that the television set is broken, the radio is damaged, you are picking the pieces of the regrigerator and you have to tip toe around the house to do this because you have broken glass all over the place. At the end of the day when this is all resolved you have to spend money buying everything back. After sometime something goes wrong and everything is gone again! How will the kind of person ever get into financial abundance or prosperity when you keep damaging things and you keep buying them back? Even if you have enough you will soon destroy so much that you will be spending you last penny trying to buy back what you destroyed because of your emotions!
Relationships in businesses, marriages and in the community can last longer only if we engage the principle of delayed reaction and we will find that it is easier to live with people and still have very minimal problems.
From today, just take a few seconds to think about what you want to say or do! Think about the consequences and ask yourself ‘what if it’s more than I bargained for?’ with this you will know that you are doing what you are doing with the full knowledge of the consequences!
© Fola Daniel Adelesi
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