Just before you get married! │© Fola Daniel Adelesi

There are so many people who really want to get married because of sex since no one will ask them not to have sex in marriage! As far as I am concerned, it is not a bad idea but you should also be quick to remember all the other things that come with getting married when you are thinking about just the sweet things in marriage. Have you ever thought about the fact that if you marry a person then you are submitting a part of your freedom to that person? You will have to follow some of the person’s wishes or have to let go some of the things you like to do because of the other person!

Some want to get married so that they can at least leave their parents’ house and have so much freedom but they have forgotten that you are actually just changing the form of freedom that you used to have when you moved from your parents’ house to your spouses’ house! In some other cases some people have never thought about the responsibility that comes with getting married and staying married!

It’s okay to think about the day when you are going to say ‘Yes, I do’ but you should think of more than just saying ‘You do!’ you should also think about the fact that you have to spend the rest of your life with this person! So I will always want to ask a few questions that I feel people should answer before saying ‘Yes I do’ and the questions are@ Do you really know this person or you are just seeing one side of the person?

Don’t you think that this person might just show you another side of him or her after the marriage?

Are you truly ready to spend the rest of your life with this person?
Have you pictured what this person will look like in another 30 years and will you still like that person? Who is the mentor of your spouse or who is he or she accountable to?
Do you know that it is dangerous to marry anyone who is not accountable to another person in any way in life?
Have you thought about what you can do when this person does things you do not like? Are you prepared to handle arguments because you are bound to disagree? What will you do when you want something badly and your spouse says no?

There are loads of other questions people should ask themselves but I must say that the question is not supposed to scare you but to help you really prepare for what you are going into and be sure you really want to go into it!

Just before you get married, sit down and think about the measure of freedom you have to surrender to others, the responsibility that comes with being married, your ability to handle unexpected changes and be sure you really want to continue with it at that time!

Marriage is sweet but, think on these things!

Fola Daniel Adelesi
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Fola Daniel Adelesi
www.foladaniel.com
www.ediblepen.org
www.ediblepensms.com
info@foladaniel.com
fola-daniel – Skype
@foladaniel – Twitter
www.facebook.com/foladanieladelesi
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